Self-Discovery is the theme for 2013

What are your true strengths?

brian tim hortons

I am always consumed in my thoughts nowadays, more now than ever before in my life. Living away from family and friends gives a shock of self- realization that would have gone unnoticed– drowned in routine. Our family, friends and peers influence our self concept more than we comprehend in day to day life. With maturity of the mind, a repertoire of different perspectives and knowledge we grasp a greater understanding of our passion and capabilities with help of the pressures of success. I can look back at my upbringing and conclude that our personalities and path in life is directly influence by a combination of nature and nurture.

How does the world see me?

This a question I ask myself constantly; the answer is ever-changing depending on the circumstances. Before we can readily answer this question we must first understand the people surrounding us. The main idea I want to share is; it is imperative we educate ourselves about different ideologies and viewpoints in our complex society.

I have a fear of being delusional, not in a mentally ill way “chuckles” but when sifting through your thoughts so much you question the solidity and relevance of the options. I have waves of optimism that propel me towards an ambitious future but then strategic thinking keeps me grounded.

A word of warning: Be on the lookout for the one menacing danger that can undermine you: delusion. This occurs when you keep acting, keep failing, and don’t realize it. You think that you had a strength in public speaking, yet you don’t realize the audience is zoning out. Or you imagine yourself a superstar salesperson, yet never wonder why nobody buys. Or you see yourself as the greatest manager of people since Lambordi, yet never notice that your employees steer clear of you as you patrol the hallways. Or, most dangerous of all, you dimly register your poor performances, yet somehow seem to find a million reasons why it has nothing to do with you. Delusions plus denial is   a lethal combination.

The philosopher Baruch Spinoza said that “to be what we are and to become what we are capable of becoming, is the only end of life.” You may disagree with his emphasis, but surely one of the goals in your life is to discover and apply your strenghts. If your senses are numbed with delusion and denial, you will stop looking for these true strengths and wind up living a second-rate version of someone else’s life rather than a world-class version of your own.

–“Now, Discover Your Strenghts” by Marcus Buckingham & Donald O. Clifton, Ph.D.

I often ask people who I interact with about my character to get a better idea of who I am. Our vanity often blinds us on areas we could improve.

What are some key qualities in me?

The answer would vary from person to person, since we interact differently with individuals based on their role in our lives.

  • I have learnt that I see the bigger picture most of the time and often overlook little key details. Maybe this is the strong sagittarius in me; a dreamer that may trip on uneven ground while gazing at the stars.
  • Realist: I accept the world; I have a sense of “understanding” that some older persons describe as an “old soul.”
  • Independent
  • Proud– “act like a king to be treated like a king” (48 Laws of Power Robert Greene)

48 Laws of Power

Try this excercise, make sure the person is in your comfort zone and you in theirs. This is necessary to receive their opinions gracefully

Cater to  your strengths rather than dwelling on weaknesses

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